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So, hey: I am a member of bandflesh. I've never tried particularly hard to hide this, and I've had it confirmed on multiple occasions that anybody who comes in to read the comm for the first time has been able to identify me almost immediately. I am not subtle, I am not a ninja, and I am not ashamed of my involvement there.
I understand why people have problems with the comm, and I respect their positions, even though I don't agree with them. I've inadvertantly hurt one of my good friends there at least once, to be honest, and knowing I did so made me cry and consider leaving the comm for good. In the end, we sorted that out and reached a place where I have both that friend and the joy I get from bandflesh.
That only works if the person trusts me, though. I can say that I don't "hide behind anonymity" as an excuse to talk shit about people, but why should you believe me? If you trust me, I'm glad. If you don't, then it makes sense you'd defriend me over this. I think that's less an issue about bandflesh than it is about our relationship, and it makes me sad, but it's totally your prerogative, you know?
Like I said in the first paragraph, I am not a subtle person in any way. I have a fuckload of flaws, but I really don't think two-facedness is one of them. If I love you, I hope you know it and believe it.
I understand why people have problems with the comm, and I respect their positions, even though I don't agree with them. I've inadvertantly hurt one of my good friends there at least once, to be honest, and knowing I did so made me cry and consider leaving the comm for good. In the end, we sorted that out and reached a place where I have both that friend and the joy I get from bandflesh.
That only works if the person trusts me, though. I can say that I don't "hide behind anonymity" as an excuse to talk shit about people, but why should you believe me? If you trust me, I'm glad. If you don't, then it makes sense you'd defriend me over this. I think that's less an issue about bandflesh than it is about our relationship, and it makes me sad, but it's totally your prerogative, you know?
Like I said in the first paragraph, I am not a subtle person in any way. I have a fuckload of flaws, but I really don't think two-facedness is one of them. If I love you, I hope you know it and believe it.