i wasn't expecting to make this post today, but okay!

[schmerica]

So, hey: I am a member of bandflesh. I've never tried particularly hard to hide this, and I've had it confirmed on multiple occasions that anybody who comes in to read the comm for the first time has been able to identify me almost immediately. I am not subtle, I am not a ninja, and I am not ashamed of my involvement there.

I understand why people have problems with the comm, and I respect their positions, even though I don't agree with them. I've inadvertantly hurt one of my good friends there at least once, to be honest, and knowing I did so made me cry and consider leaving the comm for good. In the end, we sorted that out and reached a place where I have both that friend and the joy I get from bandflesh.

That only works if the person trusts me, though. I can say that I don't "hide behind anonymity" as an excuse to talk shit about people, but why should you believe me? If you trust me, I'm glad. If you don't, then it makes sense you'd defriend me over this. I think that's less an issue about bandflesh than it is about our relationship, and it makes me sad, but it's totally your prerogative, you know?

Like I said in the first paragraph, I am not a subtle person in any way. I have a fuckload of flaws, but I really don't think two-facedness is one of them. If I love you, I hope you know it and believe it.

Comments

[fox1013.livejournal.com]

I think you're a ninja.

[blondiusmaximus.livejournal.com]

I BELIEVE YOU AND I LOVE YOU TOO, OKAY.

[queenofhell.livejournal.com]

You might want to change that to "I can say I don't hide behind anon to talk shit about people."

And yep, you are totes the first person I realized was on bandflesh, and had a lot to do with me going "okay, maybe it's not the pit of satan's minions that I've heard it is." So thank you for that. *hugs*

[pearl-o.livejournal.com]

Ahahaha, thank you for that typo correction! That definitely makes a difference in what I'm trying to say.

[lovesongwriter.livejournal.com]

PEARL, DID I EVER TELL YOU YOU'RE PRECIOUS?

Cause you are <3

[offtheceiling.livejournal.com]

I THINK YOU ARE RATHER AWESOME. AND COULD TOTALLY ROCK A NINJA ATTACK.

[elucidate-this.livejournal.com]

heeeee you were definitely the first person i made when i was lurking last night (i'd never been there). icu pearl asking for ray/gerard cuddling.

[just-katarin.livejournal.com]

YOU'RE TOTES A NINJA, BB. MOAST NINJA

[cool-rain-kiss.livejournal.com]

Falsfax! You are made of stealth! ♥

[inkdot.livejournal.com]

I keep forgetting that people have a problem with anonmemes because everyone I know is regularly on anonmemes. :D:

In other news, ♥! I HAD NO IDEA.

[happy-coconut.livejournal.com]

You're a ninja! Just...a really crappy one, that all the other ninjas make fun of. The ninja master wants to take away your ninja-ing rights, but when the news gets out, there is this HUGE PROTEST because even the ninjas that had been making fun of you LOVE you and know how AWESOME and HILARIOUS you are!

&YOU;

[greyandgrey.livejournal.com]

The hard lines people are taking over this bandflesh thing make me kind of irritated. I'm not a member, I only heard of it today. People I like are members there, people I like have apparently been talked smack about there. The anon aspect to the community admittedly makes me a little itchy, but whatever. I'm gonna put that aside for now.

The community did not set out to hurt anyone. I understand that. People were hurt nonetheless, and there are members of bandflesh who are irrationally defending those hurtful actions.

People were hurt, and I understand that, too. But defriending every single member of the community, including close friends, because they *might* have said mean things about you or someone you know is also irrational.

All this is to say that I'm really relieved to see you representing a middle ground, admitting that mistakes can be made but can also be repaired.

[speshope.livejournal.com]

Being so oblivious to subtlety myself, your unsubtlety (makin' up a word! \o/) is one of my favorite qualities!


Though honestly, I suspect it would take me embarrassingly long to identify anyone-- no matter how long I've known them-- without their usernames attached because of aforementioned oblivious- and denseness. So you'll all always be ninja-like to me!

[girlneedsagun.livejournal.com]

I think you are awesome, just so you know :)

[riadsala.livejournal.com]

People go on about how ninja you are, but I trufax can't file you nearly as much as everyone else. And a lot of the time I file you based on everyone going "lol moast stealthy" etc. I guess I just am the most lolblivious mouse. :D

[strobelighted.livejournal.com]

TOTALLY ONTOPIC: how's that conmen AU coming along?

[mythofthebelle.livejournal.com]

If it is any consolation, I am a horrible filemouse and can only file you once there's a whole thread talking about how un-ninja you are, and even then I only have a 50/50 chance of being right. /o\

[happy-coconut.livejournal.com]

trust me, you'd know.

[speshope.livejournal.com]

I have been lurking there all day and unless she didn't post at all? I totally didn't. /o\

[lovesongwriter.livejournal.com]

btw I can always file you cause ilu that much, not that you're not a total ninja <3

[happy-coconut.livejournal.com]

Well, this post I haven't either. Sometimes it just SCREAMS Erica though. ::shrug::

[speshope.livejournal.com]

I will live in eternal hope and probably do a happy dance in my chair when it happens.

[happy-coconut.livejournal.com]

heee

[jezrana.livejournal.com]

...Yeah, when I was first lurking, I think I saw Ray/Gerard and Waycest mentioned in the same comment, or something, and just went "...huh. Hi, Pearl!"

And like I said in my own journal: I have paranoia and trust issues, but I had them before I ever set foot on the internet, and I try to work on them on my own and not let them affect my internet (or RL) friendships.

[pearl-o.livejournal.com]

NO U.